2001-01-04 - 13:09:12

Good meeting last night! Finally we got around to sharing. One guy shared his story. Confidentiality discourages details here, but suffice to say that this guy has given up his old life. Period! He had made it. He was successful in his profession. But it took him into places that were detrimental to his quest, so he cut it off. That takes some BALLS, don'cha know!

In our discussion, another of the guys, who may be struggling somewhat more than some of us others (boy, that is surely subjective!) mentioned that it would be so much easier for him if he could just, maybe once a week, touch another guy, appropriately of course. Then he might not have as bitter a struggle the rest of the week.

Well, then, one of our group leaders(Kevin) asked if any of us had a problem with that, and if so why. Only one seemed ambivalent to the idea. He was a bit nervous about hugging other guys - even though he admitted it was probably what he needed. Kevin didn't press the issue at all. As a matter of fact he let it drop there. Well, it rather "hung" there for several pregnant moments before Kevin turned to a new subject.

Well, Mr. AmbivalentBoy was sitting right next to me, and when the meeting was over, so as to prevent him from scrambling out the door, I immediately stood up in his way, set myself up for the flinch, and said, "Okay-ay! Hug time!" He kind of chuckled, and stood up for it. He took to it like a duck to water. So the end of last night was our first hug-fest. And, boy were we ever hungry. Or maybe I should say I was. I'm assuming the others were, as well.

Hugging seems like such a small thing, but I can remember when I was hugging a lot in Impact Training, my guy-hunger became so much less! It really does help a lot. Connection is what I have always craved. Shoot - everybody does! Our group leaders were lovin' it, too, I could tell!

It's hard not to love a person after a close warm hug! Now things will loosen up quite a bit, I think (hope).

We had another missing-in-action boy last night. Hope everything is alright there. I'll give him a call.

Hugs, anybody?

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